A thing called Arranged Marriage...

What i thought was too early for marriage was proved to be wrong by my friends...
Like getting a degree, they just thought "hey lets get married and increase the population!"
Ofcourse at one time or the other we have given a thought to marriage and like most people i also want to fall in love and marry.

But, there is something else called "Arranged Marriages". To most people from where i come from, it was something that happened during our fathers and mothers generation and to the rest; they might not even have heard of it!

Arranged marriages are something like where your parents hook you up with a man/ woman instead of your friends. They look at all sort of criteria starting from family backgrounds to bank balances :p And yes, once you are hooked there is no turning back as it is not a date thats arranged but a wedding!

Years ago and sometimes even now in developing countries such marriages are forced upon the kids by their parents. However, now, i believe it is different. The reasons can be many...maybe for the parents wish (yes, there are many of us who will jump into a well rather than talk back/ hurt our parents) or just too fed-up of waiting for the "right" one or even dating itself...

Getting married to a complete stranger could appear "sick" (that's what one of my friends would like to call it), scary or even stupid. But, lately i seem to see another side to this thing called arranged marriage.

Another side?

The whole thing about marriages is that we want to live happily with that one special person. Love him/ her and to be loved back. So, does it matter as to how we fall in love? But that you are in love. Many would argue back saying that once you are married you are forced to be in love.
Maybe true. But, did we not choose him/her first? There should have been some basis to choose him and hence a sign of what i call "liking".

Anyways my point being, isn't it interesting to have a married life where you get to know the person day by day? And who knows you might even fall in love day by day without your own knowledge. Imagine, in love marriages you know your partner years before you get married and by that time you know everything you need to know (atleast the good side). [It somehow sounds a little boring.]
So while the "honeymooning" period has diminished/ ended in love marriages it probably has just begun for arranged marriages.

In addition, you enter love marriages with some expectation and hence expect the partner to fulfill that expectation. However, the catch is no one person is same and perfect.And a change could lead to disappointment.
However, in arranged you hardly know the person and may have even imagined that your life is doomed. To your sweet surprise it would have turned out better than you expected.

Ofcourse these are my opinion and i am no expert in marriages or love. Neither am i settling in for any sort of marriages at this moment!